Leon Panetta’s announcement that women are now allowed to serve on the frontlines of combat will probably invoke some 1960’s feminists to dust off their keepsake burned bra and wave it all around again. Don’t light the fire to the straps yet ladies because I don’t think this is anything to really celebrate and it has nothing to do with erring on the side of male chauvinism. It’s simple, there are places women should and should not be. The frontline of all out war against a barbaric enemy is not one of them.

No, I have never served my country but I absolutely admire the women who do. They are truly some of the most precious gems this nation has. However, my grandma was a nurse in WWII and both my grandfathers served in combat during WWII. I wish they were alive today to ask them what they think about the changing of the gender guard in the military. Although, I can surmise from the combat stories they told me and based upon the way American culture was in their days that they too would disagree with Panetta’s decision.

It’s evident there’s a cultural difference between my grandparent’s days and now. The role plates between men and women have shifted. Over the years we’ve seen an increase of men staying at home raising the children while the mother works the nine to five to provide. Is this bad? No. Families are struggling in this economy and if the roles are forced to reverse in order to provide then it leaves a family no choice. However, these role reversals shouldn’t be first choice. It comes down to the fact that women and men are indeed equal but our innate design is distinct. Am I saying a single father can’t be the provider and the nurturer to their child or that a woman can’t be both? Absolutely not. Although, when we adhere to the design we were intended to be, it’s more advantageous to not only our families but society as a whole.

The issue of women on the frontlines of combat isn’t solely about gender roles or physical strength but about safety. Our enemies are the epitome of ruthless, barbaric animals. The world saw what the Muslim Brotherhood did to news correspondent Lara Logan in Egypt during the ‘’peaceful’’ Arab Spring. We know how our enemy treats women even of their own kind. So how can one think that these thugs won’t make an effort to capture, rape and brutalize American women for the world to see? I know that women are already serving in the military in other capacities and the danger presently exists as we saw with the capture of Jessica Lynch in Iraq of 2003. But why increase that danger for women in combat against an enemy who salivates over hurting women? It’s my fear, we will see American women being captured, rapped, brutalized and tortured on our TV screens because what better victim could a terrorist want?

The women’s movement was great in terms of equality. However, too many women turned an issue of equality into an issue of identity. Many women used the movement’s result as a means to flex their feminist muscle in order to prove that they can do anything a man can do. The truth is, we can’t and even if we could, we don’t need to.

Women must stop trying to prove their equality by putting themselves where they don’t belong. They don’t need to be filing lawsuits in order to compete in an all male golf tournament that has always been a guy’s tournament. We don’t need to be pulling a two-hundred-twenty pound man from a burning building. We don’t belong doing activities that are clearly more inclined to require a man’s strength and fortitude. This includes being on the frontlines of combat.

Men often say there’s nothing more attractive in a lady than confidence. That confidence only exposes itself when we are comfortable as is. Acknowledging our innate design as a woman isn’t accepting inequality, it means accepting our quality. That is true confidence. There’s an old saying, “boys will be boys.” Ladies, it’s time we let them be boys.